Changing the Lives of Children, One Father at a Time!

Author: 2NOT1

Monthly Fatherhood Discussion Meetings

Title: Monthly Fatherhood Discussion Meetings
Location: 822 South 15th Street
Description: A space for fathers and people that believe fatherhood is important to network, learn of resources, and become the village it takes to raise a child.
Start Time: 18:00
Date: 2017-02-09

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Training and advocacy are needed for fathers

"This editorial was posted in the Courier-Journal newspaper April 20, 2014"

The incidents that took place in May 2012 and March 2014 are scenarios that require a call to action to prevent future episodes of violence in our community. In each case, the response of the community was to focus direct services on the youth. However, the 2012 incident would not have been prevented by youth activities because those involved were adults. Additionally, the recent Waterfront incidents also led to adult arrests.

Ensuring the development of our youth is important. However, we have to keep in mind youth prevention is only a fraction of the solution. There are many parts of the equation. Many collaborative efforts are needed to help enhance the well-being of our youth. At the forefront should be intervention and not just with youth. This intervention has to do with fathers as youth prevention alone will not address the needs of the recent Waterfront incident and the respective enhancement of our youth.

Training and advocacy for fathers is instrumental in providing direction for many youth. We no longer can afford to accept single-parent-headed households as the norm, and refuse to address approaches to get fathers involved.

Case in point: Locally, our school district provides services and support for teenage moms, and rightfully so. Yet for the teenage father there are no services, no support available for them. The premise is to “just go get a job.” In the long run that is no good for the child and as we realize, no good for the community.

Statistically, 85 percent of children who exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes as stated by the Centers for Disease Control, and a 2013 University of Michigan research study states “behaviors from promiscuity to violence often are found in populations where fathers are absent,” and “In areas where adult men are scarce, young people are 36 percent more likely to commit assaults.”

Absentee fatherhood is a major contributor to the problems we currently see. Supporting the idea that fathers play a crucial role in rearing of the youth, the National Fatherhood Initiative shares a story of wildlife reserves that had a problem with orphan elephants running rampant killing endangered species. The problem was not resolved until adult male elephants were introduced into the population.

I’ve said consistently since the violence became a major blip on the radar, the best way to curb the violent behavior is to find ways to get fathers involved. Studies reveal fathers positively impact the direction of their children, but I’m convinced fathers become role models providing guidance for children in the community as well. There are over 70 percent of African-American children residing in single-parent households, in most cases mother as the head of household. This information highlights, our youth are not experiencing the benefit of the guidance and the stability of having two involved parents in their lives.

Many people are frustrated and believe parents are responsible for their children’s behavior. I agree. I believe a big part of the solution echoed by many in the community involves not just parents but specifically fathers. Communication and collaboration at all levels are essential to addressing and implementing necessary measures to ensure success on multiple levels, and some of that work is already being done.

The collaboration between 2NOT1 Fatherhood & Families and many community organizations focus efforts on working with fathers. Collaboration with Plymouth Community and Renewal Center allows workshops and trainings for fathers. The collaboration with the city’s Healthy Start program provides fathers with training to support breast feeding efforts, child discipline, communication skills, anger management and peer mentoring, along with access to employment and educational opportunities. U of L Professor Dr. Armon Perry oversees the evaluation and assessment.

In closing, three things are needed to end the youth aggression and violence in our city. First, unselfish collaboration, in some cases with people we do not agree with. Second, acknowledge it is OK to intentionally and strategically provide services for black men/ fathers. Last, rally behind organizations such as 2NOT1 to provide support services, training and advocacy for fathers. If we do this, research shows we will sharply minimize the risk factors that lead to youth violence.

"This editorial was posted in the Courier-Journal newspaper April 20, 2014"

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Men Being Men

Title: Men Being Men
Location: 812 South Preston Street Louisville, KY 40203
Link out: Click here
Description: The objective of the “Men Being Men” movie series is to allow men an opportunity to connect and fellowship with other men around issues of manhood and fatherhood. The expectation is the dialogue will lead to action and awareness around many issues influenced by the positive leadership of men and fathers
Start Time: 01:00
Date: 2012-05-25
End Time: 04:00

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HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!

Happy Father’s Day

It’s been over 5 years since the initial conversation took place that prompted me to bring men/ father’s together to discuss life as a father. The first meeting took place at Neighborhood Place located at Shawnee High School, and because of the success and need, I convinced the community council of 810 Neighborhood Place to help me host more. The discussions were so well received, and the need so urgent to work with fathers, I founded 2NOT1.

Since the inception of 2NOT1 Fatherhood and Families I’ve been blessed to have community support for many of the initiatives I’ve set forth through 2NOT1. The end result is awareness from Conferences, recognizing the need to work with mothers and support their efforts through our Mother’s Forum, our first ever graduation class, on 06.16.11, of TFU (Teen Fatherhood University), men having opportunities to share their frustrations about fatherhood and work with other fathers to develop solutions. Out of all these things, and many more not listed, the most gratifying event is the Father’s Day Picnic. 2011 is the 3rd year for the event.

The tagline for 2NOT1 is “Changing the Lives of Children, One Father at a Time!” At the picnic fathers and families have an opportunity to spend quality time together and that’s what it’s all about, the children. Through my years as a responsible fatherhood practitioner I know children have been positively impacted through my work and the dedication of men/ fathers who want to be the best they can be. On a personal note, there’s nothing like the feeling of knowing your a father to your children and having an impact in their lives. That’s why on a day like today, Father’s Day 06.19.11, I’m excited to say to all the fathers, HAPPY FATHER’S DAY, and as I’m granted more time on this earth and continue on my mission to promote responsible fatherhood, I look forward to a day when EVERY child can say “HAPPY FATHER’S DAY,” and mean it, to a father in their life!


HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!

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The Mission of 2NOT1

Promote the safety and well-being of children by implementing strategies to keep fathers involved and families together.

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Strengthening Families

2NOT1 Fatherhood and Families is dedicated to strengthening families through responsible fatherhood.

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